Meet Denzil Meyers of DreamDivorce.tv
Well. I recently got divorced for the third time, and it was just as brutal and soul-crushing as divorces number one and number 2. I looked around for some way to mask the pain, perhaps with more pain, which brought me to try stand up comedy for the first time.
I decided I would have nothing bad to say about my exes, even though all 3 left me (and two cheated and lied on the way out). Nothing bad to say about marriage. (I don’t give up on love… I’m way to codependent.) I’ve learned that the Rebound Out of divorce is the most motivating and life transformational thing I’ve ever experienced. Divorce has been the best thing that’s ever happened to me … three times in a row!
So I’m pro-divorce, pro-survival, pro-“wow this is a great opportunity to re-imagine and relaunch yourself”. Divorce is not just an end, its also the beginning of the rest of your life.
My stage persona evolved into being the funniest and most inspirational three-time divorced guy in America.
Smooth? Ha ha! Of course not, its been all pain, confusion, crying, and vomiting. But I am proud of one simple fact: in all three divorces we decided Not to hire lawyers and go to court to fight. Instead, we worked out the details of our divorces together (it was awful), I bought a book called “How To Do Your Own Divorce in California”, and I did all the paperwork myself. As I wrote in my OKCupid profile: “You probably won’t like being married to me, but you’re gonna love our divorce” (btw, did NOT pull with the ladies).
The few years after a divorce are hard, really hard. But now, I’ve done it three times, and I can honestly say that doors have opened for me that I would’ve never knocked on, and I’m better, faster, stronger, sexier, happier, and even in a career I did not expect … thanks to my divorces. And the skills I’ve learned in not dying from heartbreak.
One night onstage I said, “Obviously in this area of life I have no idea what I’m doing. But whatever it is, I’m really good at it.” I realized that my unique perspective and experiences could be both entertaining and helpful for other people getting divorced. I’m also a life coach, an improviser, and a professional market research interviewer.
So, I recently launched my YouTube channel: DreamDivorce.TV – “Love Your Divorce for the Rest of Your Life”. Its a channel where I help people have an Easier (less conflict and fighting and expense) divorce by advocating for non-lawyer-led solutions like mediation, collaborative divorce, or DIY. I also try to help people rebound, get their lives back, and grow, by telling personal stories of my adventures. And jokes. Because, although you may have lost your ability to ever love again, you haven’t lost your sense of humor.
I’m on a mission to reimagine and rebrand divorce … away from high conflict, scorched earth legal battles, and towards a kinder, gentler, more collaborative process that will benefit both sides and really help the kids.
The US Family Court system can be rife with conflicts and and corruption. Its a much better idea to stay Out of that system and do your divorce another way … if you can.
It is possible to “love your divorce for the rest of your life”. I do 🙂